Speak of me as a friend?
Last night we were visiting friends. While making the conversation, my husband told them that I keep a house dirty .. Said that if there is a flat surface, I put stuff on it. bothered me. The truth is, yes, I have this annoying habit of leaving aside Stuff. If I hook my work is left beside my chair. embroidery work has sometimes left on the table in the dining room. Etc. It not dirt. Just disorder. To make it even more complicated, we live in a mobile home that does not have much storage space. And part of this confusion is his. He reads the newspaper, she falls to the ground. Takes off his shoes and socks in the living room and leaves. Wipes his face on a paper towel, let there. Other things too. I told him on the way home that bothered me. He said he was sorry but that I should do better. How can I make him stop talking about me like that? What do I say that will make a difference? There was no reason to say that the friends.
You are right that was very tough. It was a private matter between the two of you and he should have stayed private. Not to mention that this is not the years 1950 and this is not your job alone to keep your house clean. If you ask me, his comments are probably perceived as a reflection of him too. In addition, any person having a sense probably felt he was out of line and probably towards the inside to the outside if it is not sympathize with you. Regarding the size of your place, I can understand, my wife and our two children lived in apartments for several years and we have always been tight on space, and the result was often chaos. So do not feel bad, there is a big difference between the disorder and dirt. So what to do with his tactics of public humiliation? Well, definitely talk to him, tell him how you do not appreciate it, and how it is very disrespectful. Make Your feelings known, and if it does not work, well, it's a two way street. I'm sure he has something he would prefer remain private. We all have something we would prefer to remain private. Let him know if he will play this game, you play right-back. Perhaps he takes his nose? You're his wife! You must have dirt on him! Anyway, you see where I'm going with this. Good luck!